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Wednesday, 9 May 2012

Turning The Tide - Chapter 3


First, let me begin by apologising for the massive delay in reviews. Things have been very hectic with Lilies in a Labyrinth. For details on how it is expanding, check here!

Now, once things had settled down, I couldn’t wait to snuggle up with Turning the Tide, and read the next chapter. Chapter three explores Youth, and all the confusions that accompany it. Being a Wife and Mother, I very rarely refer to myself as “part of the youth”, regardless of that fact that my teens are only a couple of years behind me. So, as I made my way through this chapter, I found myself reminiscing the emotions I felt, the troubles I faced, and the decisions I made.

“…even recognising the spectrum of one’s emotions needs courage.” 

These words rang through my mind, accompanied by an array of flashbacks. There were times I would sit in my bedroom (I had a big, stone windowsill with a view that over-looked the park) and I would stare at the trees wondering why I felt so down. At other times, I would bury myself in my walk-in-wardrobe, read a book, and attempt to retreat away from the world. I had moments of laughter, but doom-and-gloom was a feature I couldn’t shake. The heightened emotions that attack you in waves during your teens can be daunting and upsetting. Yet this chapter soothes such feelings, and places the world in perspective.

Then, a startling revelation: 

“The noble Prophet of God, Muhammad defined youth as the time up to one’s fortieth year.” 

When you look back on years of lost youth with a pang of regret, know that you have a lot more time than you think. The vitality that sparks our youthful years lasts longer than just our teens and twenties. The sooner we accept and understand that, the sooner we can make use of this vitality.

“Sometimes I wish I could just fly away from all the inspection, questions and suspicion.” 

Reading this actually made me smile; during those stormy teen years, I actually wrote a poem called “Fly Away”. It perished, like many of my other poems from those dark times. Though now I feel I should have kept them. It is good to remember the thoughts and emotions we had back then in order to empathise with the struggles faced by our children.

What I loved about the Eternal Sources section of this chapter is that they contained not just comfort, but advice and suggestions. It guides the reader to choose the type of character they want to nurture within themselves.

What better character to model yourself on than that of Asma Bint Abu Bakr? Her story in the final section of this chapter was inspirational, whichever way you looked at it. What struck me with this beautifully written section, is that Asma’s pregnancy is mentioned. Being a mother, I know how hard those last couple of months are. I couldn't walk to the kitchen, never mind across a desert! The very fact that this story has been included in the chapter on Youth, shows that you don’t have to be single with no dependants to make use of your youth. In society, becoming a parent is seen as a removal of opportunities. Asma proved that wrong. I only pray we all remember her.

“Our Sustainer! Perfect our light for us and forgive our sins, for indeed You have power over all things.” [Surah Al-Tahrim, 66:8]

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